Action Plans 



People may contemplate suicide for a variety of complex and personal reasons, and it's essential to approach this topic with sensitivity and empathy.

What is suicide? 

Suicide is the act of intentionally taking one's own life.  It is a complex and tragic event with a range of contributing factors. Heavily intoxicated on straight vodka, Max shared (in detail ) his plan to take our Jeep and crash it into a tree hours before it actually happened. This information was shared with different teens who failed to alert an adult. 

When a person communicates intent and a plan for their death, this is an emergency situation

Common reasons people commit suicide:

  • Conditions such as depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder, and schizophrenia can increase the risk of suicidal ideation.
  • A pervasive sense of hopelessness, where individuals see no way out of their current situation or problems, can lead to suicidal thoughts.
  • Trouble in personal relationships, including conflicts with family, friends, or romantic partners, can be a contributing factor.
  • Misuse of alcohol or drugs can impair judgment and exacerbate feelings of despair.
  • Overwhelming financial difficulties can lead to feelings of despair, especially if individuals see no solution to their financial problems.
  • Experiencing trauma, such as physical or sexual abuse, or the loss of a loved one, can trigger suicidal thoughts.
  • Social isolation and a lack of support can intensify feelings of despair.
  • Previous Attempts: Individuals who have previously attempted suicide may be at a higher risk of trying again.
  • Easy access to lethal means, such as firearms, alcohol or medications, can increase the likelihood of suicide attempts.
  • Cultural and societal factors, including stigma surrounding mental health, can deter people from seeking help.

It's crucial to remember that each person's situation is unique, and there may be multiple factors at play.  If you're underage, contact an adult immediately or call 988 for the suicide helpline. 


Do you have a friend talking about suicide? Call 988 immediately. 


If the person has a detailed plan, take this with the highest seriousness! 


Get information on their current location. 


Make sure an adult is involved. 


Double check the adult is calling or administering help. 


A Final Selfie

This was  one of the last photos of Max that was taken with permission.  He is seated by his  girlfriend we knew nothing about. She informed me via text this was her 4th friend who committed suicide in 2023. Her identity  is concealed  for privacy. 

August 31, 2023 

First home football game at the Zeeland Stadium. 

If someone says something about suicide, you MUST tell an adult.

Max's golf bag and scooter

If you're in crisis, please consider reaching out to a suicide prevention hotline. In the United States, you can call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255.


988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline

Hours: Available 24 hours. Languages: English, Spanish. Learn more here




Ottawa County Mental 

Health Hotline




Be Nice.

The be nice. action plan - to notice, invite, challenge, and empower - encourages individuals to challenge themselves and others to seek appropriate professional help when they notice mental health changes or concerns.





The Ver Beek Family
Maxwell and father, Dustin Ver Beek

Art Prize

Our Family

Max and Papa Mel

Papa Mel and Max

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